In life, there are those lucky few who simply find their true love, date each other, tie the knot, have kids and live happily ever after. And then, there are the rest of us, who find ourselves in a rocky relationship that leaves us with heartbreaks. Experts say that it’s always better to try and talk your issues out with your partner. But sometimes it’s healthy to take a break to rediscover your life and see if you can fulfill one another’s desires. However, how do you know it’s the right time to take a break? Here are seven signs you need to take a break from your relationship.
1. The Relationship is Not Your Current Priority
It goes without saying that relationships require commitment, time and dedication. This is all possible if you don’t currently have other pressing issues such as family or career. Your shared responsibilities may start taking a toll on your relationship and your partner may start to feel like you’re sidelining them.
Normally, having a partner during the difficult times gives you a shoulder to lean on and someone to share your troubles and thoughts with. But when you feel like your relationship is adding to the stress you’re already feeling, it might be time to take a break. Despite loving your partner and caring for them, you just can’t prioritize it at the moment, and taking some space will give you time to sort yourself out and decide the way forward.
2. You Don’t Talk the Way You Used to
Remember the first months you met when both of you never seemed to run out of things to talk about? Well, now all you can talk about is traffic and other trivial stuff. Communication is key to building a great and long-lasting relationship and when you stop talking like couples, it’s time to take a break. Hopefully, your partner will understand and allow you the space you need to see if you two can get back together again.
3. You Spend Less Time Together
You can’t remember the last time you had a dinner date, movie night or simply hang out together. Your partner now seems to be spending most of their time with other “guys” and it feels like he/she is avoiding you. If your partner doesn’t want to spend time with you anymore, or you’d rather hang out with your friends than your partner, then it is a telltale sign that you need out. It can be hurtful to be the one who is always trying to make the relationship work and taking a break will give you a new perspective about what you want with your life.
4. You Sleep Separately
When you get to a point where you sleep in separate bedrooms, then it means your relationship is not healthy and you can barely survive staying in the same room. You can’t really expect much to come of it and your best option is to take a break from it all and find peace of mind before deciding what comes next.
5. Your Sex Life is Boring
Your sex life speaks volumes about your current relationship. If you feel bored and no longer interested in sex with your partner, then that can certainly mean that your relationship is dying. Obviously, there are things you can do to spice up your bedroom life like trying new things or seeking help. Sex is a two-way thing – you need to please her and she needs to please you. But when the two of you seem to be on different pages when it comes to sex, then taking a break is inevitable.
6. You Fight, a Lot
When it gets to a point in your relationship where you argue even about small stupid things, and you do it a lot, it’s a sure sign you need a break. According to relationship counselors, constant fighting is one of the major contributors to almost a third of all breakups. This can be toxic and can even lead to stress and depression. If you can’t fix it, take some time off to meditate on what really matters in your life and how to be happy. Then you can decide whether or not to get back together.
7. You Want Your Partner to Change or Vice Versa
Waiting for your partner to change takes hard work, effort and will power. Unfortunately, no one wants to change and this can cause conflicts. You must ask yourself if you’re willing to stay with your partner the way they are. No one is flawless and instead of finding faults, you need to think why you’re being judgmental. Did you know of her character and behavior when you first met? Do you think she has changed now or needs to change? Why? Answering these questions can help you know the best way forward.
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